Although both men and women can face a difficult period of transition following the break-up of a marriage, men often have a more difficult time reorganizing their lives after divorce. Because women typically retain custody of the children and residence of the marital home, men face the dual challenge of adjusting to their new parental role and making a new home. Here are some helpful tips to make the transition to a new home easier for you and your children:
Ensure that child has their own space in your home
Sleeping on a sofa/floor or in an open area is not conducive to having your child feel stable in your home. For teen girls, make sure there are little mini containers in the bathroom for her personal affects.
Invite your children to help with decorating their room.
Your child can pick paint colors, posters, and toys to decorate the room. If you keep a second set of their favorite items, clothes, toys, games, etc. it eliminates the drama of forgotten toys and clothes while transferring from mom's place to dad's place. It will help your child to feel secure and make visits less traumatic.
Leather Love is a good thing
Your preference for leather works well with children because it is a great fabric that is easily cleaned of minor spills. Leather furnishings create a comfortable masculine space and your child can bring their favorite pet for the weekend because leather does not collect pet hair.
Scrutinize your home for items that may be a danger to your children
Look around your home; is it clean and comfortable? Take an inventory of items that may be issue- glass tables, sharp edges on furniture, cleaning supplies under the cabinet, stairs without a stair guard, etc. If you have toddlers, crawl around on the floor to see what they see at their eye level.
Make sure you have photographs of your children
If you have remarried and have children with your new wife, make sure there are photographs of all your children. For dads handy with a computer, use your children pictures to create the screensaver on your home computer. It’s a nice touch; and if you are not computer literate, you can ask your child to do it. They will enjoy the task and appreciate the attention from dad.
Ensure that your children have space to do homework.
Even if you are living in a small space, make sure there is a desk or area for the child to work. Sign up for your child’s’ school newsletter to stay involved in their activities. Most schools have online sites, so check out the school calendar.
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