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Thursday, September 17, 2009
Breaking Divorce Commandments one at a time
I was recently asked by EONLINE to comment on Jon Gosselin's behavior; what if anything could be done to rehab his image and what advice I would give.
Jon Gosselin is breaking 9 of the Divorce Commandments and then some but the biggest infractions are the following
Good luck Jon.
You can read the article in its entirety here jon_gosselin_misunderstood
Jon Gosselin is breaking 9 of the Divorce Commandments and then some but the biggest infractions are the following
- Thou shalt be discreet. Save all confessions for your priest or your lawyer. Thy shall in particular resist the powerful natural impulse to seek the counsel of mutual friends, of your spouse, to get them "on your side." In JG's case I would add reporters to that list of things he needs to resist.
- Thou shalt not covet the nanny, the babysitter, the secretary, the girl next door, the exotic dancer who "wants to go back to college", or that hot single mom who "just wants to be friends," until your divorce is FINAL.
Good luck Jon.
You can read the article in its entirety here jon_gosselin_misunderstood
Saturday, June 13, 2009
Don't buy a tie!
82% of Dads do not want a necktie, cologne, underwear or socks!
According to a poll at InteractiveDad.com, Dads’ top pick for Father’s Day is to enjoy a meal with his family. Thank Dad for all his care and attention this year; fire up the grill and open a bottle of Oriel?
Give your Dad what he really wants this year. Try handmade wine from some of the world’s best winemakers! To celebrate Father’s Day Oriel is offering a BUY 3, GET 1 free offer.
According to a poll at InteractiveDad.com, Dads’ top pick for Father’s Day is to enjoy a meal with his family. Thank Dad for all his care and attention this year; fire up the grill and open a bottle of Oriel?
Give your Dad what he really wants this year. Try handmade wine from some of the world’s best winemakers! To celebrate Father’s Day Oriel is offering a BUY 3, GET 1 free offer.
Saturday, June 06, 2009
What Matters Most on Father’s Day
I was recently interviewed by DETAILS Magazine about Father’s Day and Fatherhood. One of the questions was about the meaning of fatherhood and how fathers are portrayed on TV and more importantly, in society as a whole. I was asked if there was a father figure from TV that I remembered or that stuck out in my mind. I felt like I was taking an Alzheimer’s quiz…
So I thought about it. And then I remembered growing up in Southern California and the role models I saw on TV and what mattered most to me. First, I recalled a TV show called The Courtship of Eddie's Father with Bill Bixby. I think this was the first time I learned about the life of a widower. What I liked about this show was that there was a moment at the beginning and end of every show where father and son spoke in a philosophical way to each other - kind of like a “zen moment” between them. They were learning from each other and I thought it was an interesting relationship. I liked the simplicity of the show. I don’t really remember the individual episodes or how he became a widower, but I really didn’t need to know the details. I was completely focused on the bonding between father and son. (Yes, I know there was a Japanese nanny, but I didn’t really put the two together!)
From my adolescence, I remembered Little House on the Prairie, Sanford and Son, Chico and the Man, The Brady Bunch, and Happy Days. These shows had a variety of father figures but they all had an active father role and I liked that. As I continued to talk about these shows, I realized that I was going off rack in my interview. The writer wanted something more current like the father figures of Al Bundy or Homer Simpson, characters that were heavily portrayed as bad, out-of-touch fathers. In addition, they wanted me to comment on the more recent role of Bruce Jenner on the reality TV show, Keeping Up with the Kardashians. I thought about the family going to Las Vegas, without Bruce who had to stay home for a scheduled doctor’s visit to get a colonoscopy! My legs crossed and my mouth dropped. All I could say was, “That’s one sad state of a family and I am sure they don’t know what kind of message they are sending out to their TV viewers.” I couldn’t hold back my feelings in that interview.
When I left the interview, I realized how today’s TV fathers have so little in common with what reality is like. I am sure you can have the same argument for TV mothers as well. Granted, I am not the perfect father. In fact, I am far from perfect and I am grateful for the mistakes I have made. The lessons that I have learned have taught me about myself and how to be a better dad. What matters most in my life is that I get up every day knowing that I am not perfect. I am willing to learn from my children about how to communicate as the father in my family. Whether you are married, re-married, widowed, newly divorced or a single father with children, we all have a common goal in life: To be the best dad we can be and to being proud of the legacy we create every day of our lives.
I can remember this very topic of conversation with my own father about fatherhood. My Father is a great man. I love and respect him very much. When I was young, he had to work 6 days a week to provide for the five of us. I always knew he was present in my life. When I played sports, I could always count on him being there. If it was a tennis match, I could see him in the back court. If it was baseball, he was always past the outfield fence. If it was soccer, I could always count on him cheering me on. In school, he was always asking questions about my studies and encouraging me to be the first in my family to earn a college degree.
At times when I was in college, he felt unsure about his ability to support me financially. I remember the talk we had at graduation and how guilty he sounded when we discussed how I had put myself through college and worked a full time job. As my father shared his feelings, I listened attentively and waited for my turn to speak. I looked right back into his eyes, and I told him, “Dad, you never let me down, you and mom were always with me. You taught me everything I needed to know to be prepared for college and the responsibilities of life. You did the best you could and you did a great job as my father. You have given me the tools to be a great dad to my children and that gift is priceless.”
So on this Father’s Day, I want all of us to look back and look forward to being the best fathers we can be. Know that you are doing the best you can do each and every day. What matters most is that fatherhood is an experience in learning, communicating and feeling. Richard J Jaramillo
So I thought about it. And then I remembered growing up in Southern California and the role models I saw on TV and what mattered most to me. First, I recalled a TV show called The Courtship of Eddie's Father with Bill Bixby. I think this was the first time I learned about the life of a widower. What I liked about this show was that there was a moment at the beginning and end of every show where father and son spoke in a philosophical way to each other - kind of like a “zen moment” between them. They were learning from each other and I thought it was an interesting relationship. I liked the simplicity of the show. I don’t really remember the individual episodes or how he became a widower, but I really didn’t need to know the details. I was completely focused on the bonding between father and son. (Yes, I know there was a Japanese nanny, but I didn’t really put the two together!)
From my adolescence, I remembered Little House on the Prairie, Sanford and Son, Chico and the Man, The Brady Bunch, and Happy Days. These shows had a variety of father figures but they all had an active father role and I liked that. As I continued to talk about these shows, I realized that I was going off rack in my interview. The writer wanted something more current like the father figures of Al Bundy or Homer Simpson, characters that were heavily portrayed as bad, out-of-touch fathers. In addition, they wanted me to comment on the more recent role of Bruce Jenner on the reality TV show, Keeping Up with the Kardashians. I thought about the family going to Las Vegas, without Bruce who had to stay home for a scheduled doctor’s visit to get a colonoscopy! My legs crossed and my mouth dropped. All I could say was, “That’s one sad state of a family and I am sure they don’t know what kind of message they are sending out to their TV viewers.” I couldn’t hold back my feelings in that interview.
When I left the interview, I realized how today’s TV fathers have so little in common with what reality is like. I am sure you can have the same argument for TV mothers as well. Granted, I am not the perfect father. In fact, I am far from perfect and I am grateful for the mistakes I have made. The lessons that I have learned have taught me about myself and how to be a better dad. What matters most in my life is that I get up every day knowing that I am not perfect. I am willing to learn from my children about how to communicate as the father in my family. Whether you are married, re-married, widowed, newly divorced or a single father with children, we all have a common goal in life: To be the best dad we can be and to being proud of the legacy we create every day of our lives.
I can remember this very topic of conversation with my own father about fatherhood. My Father is a great man. I love and respect him very much. When I was young, he had to work 6 days a week to provide for the five of us. I always knew he was present in my life. When I played sports, I could always count on him being there. If it was a tennis match, I could see him in the back court. If it was baseball, he was always past the outfield fence. If it was soccer, I could always count on him cheering me on. In school, he was always asking questions about my studies and encouraging me to be the first in my family to earn a college degree.
At times when I was in college, he felt unsure about his ability to support me financially. I remember the talk we had at graduation and how guilty he sounded when we discussed how I had put myself through college and worked a full time job. As my father shared his feelings, I listened attentively and waited for my turn to speak. I looked right back into his eyes, and I told him, “Dad, you never let me down, you and mom were always with me. You taught me everything I needed to know to be prepared for college and the responsibilities of life. You did the best you could and you did a great job as my father. You have given me the tools to be a great dad to my children and that gift is priceless.”
So on this Father’s Day, I want all of us to look back and look forward to being the best fathers we can be. Know that you are doing the best you can do each and every day. What matters most is that fatherhood is an experience in learning, communicating and feeling. Richard J Jaramillo
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
DIFFA’S DINING BY DESIGN 2009
Please sign up to volunteer for DIFFA and the upcoming DYD in NYC.
DIFFA is Design Industries Foundation Fighting AIDS.
It is a great cause and you will get karma brownie points.
DIFFA’S DINING BY DESIGN 2009
DIFFA is Design Industries Foundation Fighting AIDS.
It is a great cause and you will get karma brownie points.
DIFFA’S DINING BY DESIGN 2009
World's Most Expensive Divorce
Mr Ecclestone paid $$1 Billion dollars for "stress and anxiety"
Bernie Ecclestone the top dog at Formula One is forking over a cool billion to his STBX wife. Slavica said he caused her stress and anxiety. He has most of the property in the name of his STBX-wife because of tax reasons, so he doesn't stand a prayer of not paying this amount and then some.
Do I have any takers who would trade some "stress and anxiety" for a billion dollars??
In court documents, Slavica Ecclestone said her husband's behavior "has caused me stress and anxiety."
Bernie Ecclestone the top dog at Formula One is forking over a cool billion to his STBX wife. Slavica said he caused her stress and anxiety. He has most of the property in the name of his STBX-wife because of tax reasons, so he doesn't stand a prayer of not paying this amount and then some.
Do I have any takers who would trade some "stress and anxiety" for a billion dollars??
Sunday, March 01, 2009
Mistresses can claim alimony under new laws
Mistresses can now claim income maintenance, property and even superannuation funds under the Family Law Amendment (De Facto Financial Matters and Other Measures), dubbed the "mistress laws", which were passed by the Senate last November and came into effect today (March 1).
The main objective is to remove same-sex discrimination from the Family Court system, but they have left the door open for a raft of de facto relationship claims.
Read this story in the Aussie paper and Wow!!!. Guys it is definitely cheaper to keep her and be faithful, because paying alimony to your wife and mistress will send you to the homeless shelter quick fast and in a hurry.
Source
Friday, February 27, 2009
FREE Divorce Planning Teleconference
Attend FREE seminar without leaving home.
With the home-mortgage crisis in the U.S. wreaking havoc in the real estate and banking industries, its affect is now trickling down into other areas, such as divorce. Under the current market conditions, breaking up is harder to do than ever.
Many couples are forced to live under the same roof because they can't afford to move on separately. They can’t unload their houses for enough money to pay off their mortgages and home-equity debts, but job losses and tougher mortgage standards make it harder to afford splitting them, too.
That is why we have created a FREE workshop that takes some of the uncertainty out of the process.
Visit http://www.divorcemedia.com/ to Register
With the home-mortgage crisis in the U.S. wreaking havoc in the real estate and banking industries, its affect is now trickling down into other areas, such as divorce. Under the current market conditions, breaking up is harder to do than ever.
Many couples are forced to live under the same roof because they can't afford to move on separately. They can’t unload their houses for enough money to pay off their mortgages and home-equity debts, but job losses and tougher mortgage standards make it harder to afford splitting them, too.
That is why we have created a FREE workshop that takes some of the uncertainty out of the process.
Visit http://www.divorcemedia.com/ to Register
Tuesday, February 10, 2009
Big Pretty Things
Starting over after divorce.
The first rule is to treat yourself well. If you have been thru the bruising that calls itself the justice system, then you deserve a mental health break. Spend a few days relaxing in an environment you enjoy. Just don't spend too many night at Scores or Spearmint Rhino, gentlemen show moderation in all things.
Make sure you get a physical, good health is essential for a bright future. Take it slow and steady you have made it thru the storm.
Make sure you get a physical, good health is essential for a bright future. Take it slow and steady you have made it thru the storm.
Monday, February 09, 2009
I have no words....
Marriage may be about love, but divorce is definitely about money!
The credit crunch is putting the squeeze on the marriages of the super wealthy as a record number of couples with $10 million or more in assets sue for divorce. One financial trader confessed that he had to disguise the collapse of his fortune, from $20m to $8m, by borrowing heavily so that his wife could keep up her high-spending habit. If she were to suspect he was worth only $8m, he feared she would immediately sue for divorce.
I really have no words for this level of stupidity. He really needs to grow a pair and get himself a 8 million dollar woman instead.
The credit crunch is putting the squeeze on the marriages of the super wealthy as a record number of couples with $10 million or more in assets sue for divorce. One financial trader confessed that he had to disguise the collapse of his fortune, from $20m to $8m, by borrowing heavily so that his wife could keep up her high-spending habit. If she were to suspect he was worth only $8m, he feared she would immediately sue for divorce.
I really have no words for this level of stupidity. He really needs to grow a pair and get himself a 8 million dollar woman instead.
Saturday, February 07, 2009
Read Em and Weep.
•There are numerous agencies, social support services and infrastructure geared to supporting women transitioning thru divorce. There is a Divorce University for women yet no similar organization exists for men.
•Divorced Men are 10 times more likely than women to commit suicide. Men who don't commit suicide are often depressed, but they cover up the depression by quickly remarrying to fill the void. These men also tend to overwork, drink or gamble too much.
•Professional athletes have a 80 percent divorce rate. No one provides resources on how these athletes can keep their families. No one helps them to divorce without damage.
•Men are being abandoned with children or gaining custody of children, and lack the support systems that women have.
• In Southern California the divorce rate is believed to be somewhere in the neighborhood of 60-75%.
•65% of divorces are initiated by women. December 2003 AARP survey, 66 percent of women reported that they asked for the divorce, compared with 41 percent of men. Men more often than women were caught off-guard by their divorce (the news blind-sided 26 percent of men, compared with 14 percent of women).
•75% of all divorced people re-marry, half of them within three years. Fifty percent of first marriages, 67 percent of second and 74 percent of third marriages end in divorce.
We love the gossip and tawdriness of the 76 million dollar divorce, the cheating and money fights, but at the end of the day behind these statistics there are millions of families and men who need support.
•Divorced Men are 10 times more likely than women to commit suicide. Men who don't commit suicide are often depressed, but they cover up the depression by quickly remarrying to fill the void. These men also tend to overwork, drink or gamble too much.
•Professional athletes have a 80 percent divorce rate. No one provides resources on how these athletes can keep their families. No one helps them to divorce without damage.
•Men are being abandoned with children or gaining custody of children, and lack the support systems that women have.
• In Southern California the divorce rate is believed to be somewhere in the neighborhood of 60-75%.
•65% of divorces are initiated by women. December 2003 AARP survey, 66 percent of women reported that they asked for the divorce, compared with 41 percent of men. Men more often than women were caught off-guard by their divorce (the news blind-sided 26 percent of men, compared with 14 percent of women).
•75% of all divorced people re-marry, half of them within three years. Fifty percent of first marriages, 67 percent of second and 74 percent of third marriages end in divorce.
We love the gossip and tawdriness of the 76 million dollar divorce, the cheating and money fights, but at the end of the day behind these statistics there are millions of families and men who need support.
Thursday, February 05, 2009
How To Save A Marriage On Valentine's Day
Attention Guys!!
Here are 3 tips to help keep you from becoming a Hemancipation client.
Not that I wouldn't love to have you as a client, but romance is better.
1. Call Noka and order the Grand Cru Collection, surprise her with chocolate, and champagne.
2. Bukiety flowers are always intoxicating. Get something unique.
3. Romance is a simple feeling best expressed lavishly. Head to Milliken Creek Inn and Spa for some Pillow Talk, and if you are on the East Coast head to Blackberry Farm.
4. Lingerie is a win win. Head to Agent Provocateur for some sensual lingerie, you will enjoy the shopping.
5. Grab a bottle of Yalumba The Reserve Cabernet Sauvignon Shiraz 1998 it is deep inky red with a very deep rich scent.
Enjoy the day and the night to come.
Here are 3 tips to help keep you from becoming a Hemancipation client.
Not that I wouldn't love to have you as a client, but romance is better.
1. Call Noka and order the Grand Cru Collection, surprise her with chocolate, and champagne.
2. Bukiety flowers are always intoxicating. Get something unique.
3. Romance is a simple feeling best expressed lavishly. Head to Milliken Creek Inn and Spa for some Pillow Talk, and if you are on the East Coast head to Blackberry Farm.
4. Lingerie is a win win. Head to Agent Provocateur for some sensual lingerie, you will enjoy the shopping.
5. Grab a bottle of Yalumba The Reserve Cabernet Sauvignon Shiraz 1998 it is deep inky red with a very deep rich scent.
Enjoy the day and the night to come.
Friday, January 30, 2009
Zero Sum Game
6th Commandment
Thou shalt not turn your divorce into a contact sport. You get zero points for being adversarial and no home court advantage, just more opportunities for turnovers.
Thou shalt not turn your divorce into a contact sport. You get zero points for being adversarial and no home court advantage, just more opportunities for turnovers.
Thursday, January 29, 2009
No Begging Allowed
This is the 5th Commandment
5. Thou shalt not spend the next six months trying to get your wife to change her mind. You’ve been FIRED, move on. You can't run to the other huddle once the ref has blown the whistle. Remember the First Commandment.
5. Thou shalt not spend the next six months trying to get your wife to change her mind. You’ve been FIRED, move on. You can't run to the other huddle once the ref has blown the whistle. Remember the First Commandment.
Monday, January 26, 2009
Honor your sons and daughters
This is the 4th Divorce Commandment
Honor your sons and daughters: fatherhood is a blessing. Nurture,protect and financially support your children. Thy progeny shall under no circumstances be used as a political football, despite such antics by other parties. Looking back in 20 years all that will matter to you from this sordid chapter is how you treated the kids, and how they came out of it.
Honor your sons and daughters: fatherhood is a blessing. Nurture,protect and financially support your children. Thy progeny shall under no circumstances be used as a political football, despite such antics by other parties. Looking back in 20 years all that will matter to you from this sordid chapter is how you treated the kids, and how they came out of it.
Saturday, January 24, 2009
Banish your bare-bones bachelor appearance.
Have a personal style question or interior design conundrum? Have you recently ended a relationship looking for a new start but your bedroom is scaring your dates?
Please send me your questions. . . we want to hear from you!
Send e-mail questions, comments, insults or complaints to michelle@hisdesigner.com
Please send me your questions. . . we want to hear from you!
Send e-mail questions, comments, insults or complaints to michelle@hisdesigner.com
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
Welcome Mr. President!
Take time out to honor and recognize, President Barack Hussein Obama, the 44th President of the United States of America.
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